Genuinely good people are hard to find these days. It is however our duties as human beings to be kind to one another, especially with our partners.
Some women have higher standards than others of course, but we all seek someone we can confide in and that person that we can share a life with. But what exactly constitutes a “good man”? There are some signs that indicate you truly are in the presence of an exceptional man.
1. He makes you feel beautiful (inside and out).
A quality partner will interact with you physically, mentally, and emotionally. It’s usually easy to detect physical attraction, but always be cognizant of whether your partner gets just as excited about your thoughts and insights—or not.
2. He inspires you every day.
A strong and undaunted character is both admirable and inspirational. If your partner’s words and actions make you want to be a better person for them, for yourself, and for the greater world as a whole, then you’re in an ideal situation—and relationship.
3. He is very supportive.
Regardless of whether you want to go back to school after 20 years to get your Master’s degree, start a singing career or stay at home to raise a family, a good man will always support you and what you want out of your life. He will never discourage you or make you feel as though you can’t do what you set out to do. He will be beside you every step of the way, cheering on your victories and comforting you during your defeats.
4. He always seeks to improve himself.
Whether it be learning new things, developing a new skill set, reading a new book or watching a documentary, a good man who prides himself on continuous self improvement will always be intellectually challenging you and keeping your attention. He will be doing these things for himself, but the added benefit will be the positive impact it has on your relationship.
5. He makes you feel safe and secure.
This not only means that they will stick-up for you if need be, but also that you always feel safe and comfortable in your partner’s presence. Just the feeling itself will tell you your partner is worthy.
6. He pays attention to the little things.
Aside from holding doors door open, pulling out chairs, and offering a piece of clothing off their back when you’re cold, a quality partner will also take note of obscure comments and gestures, respond to them as needed, and care for you as needed without having to be asked or hinted at.
7. He is honest.
Not only will a worthy partner never lie to you, but they will also provide you with any information that they think or know you would want to have based on your questions or concerns.
8. He will never be abusive.
Perhaps the most important point of all. Whether it be mentally, emotionally or physically, a good man will never even think about being abusive towards you or harmful in any way. If this happens to you, please have the courage and respect for yourself in order to talk to someone or walk away immediately. No good person would ever act like this, and it will not get better on its own.
9. He is not afraid to talk about his feelings.
It can be difficult for some people to express their emotions, fears and even inner-most desires, but having the right person in our lives often helps to open those doors. A good man, while understanding of course that some things are to be kept private, will not hide things from you or bottle up his feelings, knowing that doing so will cause tension and frustration.
10. They’re selfless.
As mentioned, this means that they genuinely want to help you become happy, peaceful, and successful—completely regardless of whether or not they get anything in return once you become those things (or while you’re on your way toward them).
11. He will stand by you.
When a man commits his love and his time to someone, there are no stipulations or circumstances required. There will be good times and there will be not-so-good times. There will be challenges and unexpected situations that arise. But he will stay by your side and be your teammate through it all.
Of course, there is an asterisk to this. This does not mean you can disrespect your partner, lie or cheat. It does not mean you can betray his trust and expect him to stick around because he promised to commit to you. This point is about things the two of you go through together and him having the integrity to not walk away when times get hard.
Any man can be by your side on the sunny days. The real test of character is whether or not he will hold the umbrella over you during the stormy days.
Remember, if the person you are with puts in the effort to be this person for you, please let him know how much you appreciate him. No matter how kind someone is, there is no emptier feeling than giving your heart to someone who you feel takes it for granted.
Source: http://irelease.org, huffingtonpost.com
7 Signs He Really Loves You, Even If He Doesn’t Say It
Women love to talk about love, expecting their guy to say “I love you” as often as they do. But they are often disappointed. The average guy would rather roll around in poison ivy than talk about his feelings. Men don’t want to talk about their relationships with anyone, even the women they love. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you, deeply and completely. It’s possible he has never said “I love you” to anyone in his entire life. If he loves you, he’ll eventually say the words.
Until then, look at his actions. To a guy, actions are what matter, not words. We did a little research and uncovered seven common behaviors that show he’s in love, even without the words.
1. He’s willing to sacrifice for you.
A man in love wants to do all he can to make his lady happy and is willing to make great sacrifices for her. In a fulfilling and lasting relationship, each gladly sacrifices for the other. When your man does something for you, whether it’s something grand or doing the dishes, he’s telling you he loves you. Sacrificing for the one you love is selfless and takes maturity. It shouldn’t be a one-way street.
2. He respects your friends and family
When a man loves you, he’ll respect the other relationships that are important to you. This doesn’t mean he’ll like all of those people, but he’ll be civil and show respect. He doesn’t want unnecessary conflict with others to damage his relationship with you. It could happen that someone you care about doesn’t really care about you. If he sees someone hurting you, even if it’s someone you care about, he’ll be conflicted between protecting you and respecting that person. In all likelihood, he’ll choose to protect you out of love.
3. He loves you even with bad hair and stained jeans.
You probably tried on sixteen outfits before your first date and continued to always look your best as time went on. Eventually, when you begin spending more and more time together, the day comes when you just look awful. Perhaps you’re sick or simply tired and sweaty. It doesn’t matter to a guy in love. He accepts you and loves you however you look. Men celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary have often said, “She looks as beautiful to me now as on the day we met.” Men appreciate the effort their woman makes to look her best, but love the real woman underneath the pretty clothes and makeup.
4. He’s a good listener.
Women are typically better listeners than men. If your guy really listens to you, he’s a keeper. This is particularly true if he doesn’t give his full attention to many people. This can be demonstrated in countless small ways. If you’ve said you love lilies but aren’t fond of roses and he gives you lilies for Valentine’s Day, he heard what you said. If he remembers you talking about something you’ve always wanted to do and makes it happen, he’s deeply in love.
5. He’s not afraid to show his vulnerability.
Men don’t like to expose their vulnerabilities. Perhaps it’s genetic, but men normally want to appear strong at all times. Perhaps this is why so many guys put off going to the doctor as long as possible and make terrible patients. One of the truest signs of love from a man is when he begins to expose his inner feelings and what he considers weaknesses. This shows that he really trusts you above all others. It can take quite a while before this happens, but letting his guard down is a true sign of love. (Don’t ever betray this trust – it could destroy the relationship.)
6. He’s got your back.
If your guy doesn’t stick up for you, this doesn’t always mean he doesn’t love you. Sometimes a guy thinks it’s family or friend drama and you don’t need his help. However, when it’s important, a man who loves you will stick up for you and always have your back.
7. He brags about you.
If you’ve ever heard a man brag about his lady, you can be sure he really loves her. He’s proud of the woman he loves. When he tells a friend about how smart you are, how great you cook or what a wonderful mom you are, he’s saying “I love you and I’m proud of you.” Treasure these words. Be proud of him also.
Does you guy display any of these seven signs? These are acts of love. He may never say “I love you” as often as you’d like, but he will let his actions speak for him. If the man you love shows all seven, he could be “the one.”
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