“There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved”
Falling in love with the person that is your perfect fit is one of the best feelings in the world. Although it’s not uncommon to find yourself falling in love with the wrong person before getting to Mr. Right.
For many centuries philosophers and mystics believed that we only fall in love with three different types of people in our lifetimes. The “one that makes us do stupid things”, “the one that breaks and makes us” and “the one that does not need a special reason”.
1. The first love
“The heart wants what it wants”
We usually experience first love at a very young age. This is called “idealistic love” and we find this lover mainly at our high school. This is the kind of love we see in fairy tales and Hollywood movies. Lovers expect a lot from their relationship and believe that they will end up getting married and live in a beautiful house happily ever after. This love is very dramatic and incredibly romantic. We would do our best to keep it as long as possible.
Then it comes to a stage where our own principals get unimportant. Somehow we want the relationship to work, and we tend to think that “true love” should be like that.
2. The second love
“We are shaped and fashioned by who we love”
Compared to the first kind, second love is much more complicated and difficult. This love will force us to understand “who we are as individuals”, “who are our partners” and “where we want to go in life”. With age and maturity, thanks to this love, we will understand what kind of person we want to live the rest of our lives with.
We will experience manipulations, lies, deceit and will get hurt more often by our partners. This can lead to separations. We can always forgive, makeup again and again until we completely give up the relationship. This love usually ends with heartbreak and tears in our eyes, but this relationship will make us stronger. In the end, we will understand the kind of person who is worthy of our trust and heart.
3. The third and final love
“I want all of you. Your flaws, your mistakes, and your imperfections”
By this time, we no longer expect love to be a fairy tale. We have experienced love to great depths and suffered emotionally, mentally and even physically. The third kind of love will come into our lives unexpectedly. When we met this person, we may not want to be in a relationship with them because their personality did not match with us at all. This love will be completely unplanned and arrive out of the blue. These factors will make the connection more strong and passionate.
This love will not be dramatic and romantic as the previous affairs, but it will bring a lot more peace. The link we build with them, the support they provide us and the effort they insert to build a future with us will make the bond stronger. We will no longer have to hide our flaws and imperfections as they will accept us for who we are.
Even though we never imagined we’ll end up with this type of person, we will be much happier from the inside.
For a person, it can take a whole life to learn the lessons of love, or if you are lucky you may grasp all of them just in a few years. We have seen people who fell in love at the age of 50+ and enter matrimony. We also have seen people who have been married for many years and still love their partners passionately. This third kind of love could arrive in your life at any age and once you found it, it’s forever.