Sometimes I wonder if anyone is glad to have me in their life.
6 Simple Ways To Love Yourself Again
“Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind, and the third is to be kind.” Henry James
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Maria Robinson
Being kind to yourself in everyday life is in my experience one of the best things you can do for yourself.
Life will become lighter and your relationships will most likely improve.
You will feel happier overall. And your self-esteem and your sense of deserving good things in life will go up.
Below are 6 ways to learn to love yourself more.
1. Focus on the things you like about yourself
We have a tendency to focus on the things we don’t like about ourselves: Our flaws, insecurities, mistakes or fears. However, the more you focus on what you don’t like about yourself, the more those thoughts grow and turn into beliefs and start to shape your reality.
Everything you perceive in the physical world has its origin in the invisible, inner world of your thoughts, beliefs, and stories. When you choose to focus on yourself in a positive, compassionate way, you open yourself to seeing and realizing how amazing you already are.
Take a couple minutes right now to think about the positive things about yourself, and to write down three things in your journal or on a sticky note.
2. Take more time to do the things you want to do
If your friends call you up on your day off and they want to go to the movies, you really don’t have to say yes. If you wanted to stay inside and read your favorite book for the 233rd time, do that! Just because the people around you do one thing, it doesn’t mean you have to do it too.
Next time you’re invited out or you find yourself doing something with friends or family out of obligation, ask yourself if it’s something that you really have to do. If it isn’t, is it something you genuinely want to do? If not, politely decline, and just do you.
3. Let go of mistakes and embrace the past
Imagine walking through life with a heavy backpack full of rocks. Oftentimes, our past mistakes and struggles can weigh us down, thereby preventing us from living in the moment and making the changes necessary to create an authentic life.
The truth is, we all have a past and we’ve all made mistakes – some big, some small. But by holding on to what happened yesterday, you miss out on the beauty of the present moment. Remember that everything that happened to you has shaped you into the unique person you are today, but doesn’t define your future.
When you embrace the past you create space for all the beautiful things the world has to offer and you open your heart to healing, love, and happiness.
4. Get rid of the negative influences in your life
To loving yourself, get rid of the people that don’t love you.
Love is an action, a choice—not a feeling. So anybody who claims they love you but doesn’t make time for you doesn’t make you feel special, or treats you like you’re unimportant—they do not love you and they are a parasite. They are eating away at your self-confidence and happiness. Get rid of them.
They are not good, not important, and most importantly, they are not worthy of your precious heart and time. You’re beautiful, unique, and amazing—don’t waste your time on people who don’t question why you’re not famous for being awesome, duh!
5. Appreciate your life
We have a tendency to focus on the things we want to change about ourselves, our relationships and our lives. But what if you stopped focusing on the things you want to change and, instead, focused on the things you are grateful for right now. Rhonda Byrne, the producer, and author of The Magic encourages us to count our blessings and be grateful for what we have. Byrne writes:
“When you’re grateful for the things you have, no matter how small they may be, you will see those things instantly increase.”
When you train your mind to appreciate yourself and embrace all the things you’re grateful for in your life you will immediately start loving yourself more. What are the things you are grateful for in your life right now? Write out the first 5 things that come to your mind.
6. Take care of your body
When we don’t feel good about ourselves we usually neglect our bodies whispers for nutrition, rest and love. But when you ignore your body’s needs you are giving yourself the message that you aren’t worth loving. On the flip side, when you take care of your body and its needs you will start to feel loved and lovable. Your body is extremely smart and knows what it needs. Your challenge is to begin to listen to what your body is telling you.
Self-love is something we can choose, the same way we choose sadness, hate or anger. When you choose to embrace yourself, despite your flaws, quirks, and humanness, you also open the door to let others love you too.
Sources: recoverywarriors.com, thoughtcatalog.com