Some Beautiful Marriage Advice Written By a Divorced Man, Everyone Should Read This


Gerald Rogers, a psychologist who went through a tough divorce, wrote an incredible Facebook post about life, love, relationships, and divorce. He started by saying,

“After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I could have had…” This is his advice…

Choose love.

In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

 

Don’t sweat the money.

Money is a game, find ways to work in a team and win. It never helps when teammates fight. Discover how to use the strength of both people to win.

 

Always grow together.

The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working on a muscle just like when you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions you can work on.

Let yourself be vulnerable.

You don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

 

Be open and transparent.

If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING: Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know I she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK: If you feel that you have to wear a mask and be perfect all the time, you will never be able to experience the full dimension of what love can be.

 

Don’t be stupid.

Do not be stupid and do not be afraid to be stupid. You will make mistakes and you will do the same. Do not try to make too many mistakes and learn from your mistakes. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

 

The dating never stops.

NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

 

Protect your heart.

Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Do not be stupid and do not be afraid to be stupid. You will make mistakes and you will do the same. Do not try to make too many mistakes and learn from your mistakes. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

 

Fall in love every day.

They will change constantly. These are not the same people you were when you got married and in five years you will not be the same person you are today Change comes and you have to choose each day again. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.


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