Take care of yourself first or you will have nothing left to give others. Self-care is not selfishness. You cannot serve it from an empty vessel.
5 Things You Can Expect To Happen When You Become Your Own Best Friend
Whether your best friend is your partner or someone you’re not romantically linked to, it’s lovely to have that one person you can always turn to. However, on a quest to find that special someone to share a unique bond with, many of us overlook the one person we’re going to spend our entire lives with ourselves!
So why not make an effort to become your own best friend? You don’t have to abandon those you already care about, but you do have to learn to love your own company and become comfortable spending time alone.
1. You learn how to love yourself
Can you honestly say that you love yourself? Are you having a hard time being happy with yourself? It is so easy to focus on your faults and everyone can dwell on their insecurities instead of the things about themselves that they are happy with. Doing this can cause you to dislike yourself.
You may also be too busy focusing on others around you and not focusing on loving yourself. Some people don’t want to be alone and fear to do things on their own. This can really hinder your journey to self-love, as you have to learn to be comfortable being with yourself.
Once you start to become your own best friend, you will learn to treat yourself like you would any other friend. You will be much happier and will learn how to best take care of yourself. When you are truly in love with yourself and happy, you should stop comparing yourself to others so much and should find yourself more confident, not worrying as much about what others think.
2. Your relationships with others improve
When you love and respect yourself, your relationships with others are likely to improve because you’ll be less likely to settle for less than you deserve.
When you become your own best friend, you know yourself better and you know exactly what you are looking for with others. You’ll be able to rule out those you’re incompatible with while attracting those who can complement your personality perfectly.
3. You become more independent
One of the best things about being your own best friend is the sense of independence you experience. You don’t need to wait around for other people before you do things you enjoy. From going to the cinema on your own to exploring an unfamiliar city solo, you don’t need to rely on others to enjoy the world.
Relationships with others are a crucial part of being human, but our relationship with ourselves is perhaps even more important. It’s naive to assume that those we love will be with us throughout our whole lives. Although people might accompany us for part of the journey, we need to have the strength to embark on some of it alone!
4. You handle criticism better
As your own best friend, you’ll handle criticism better than you would if you didn’t love yourself.
When you lack self-esteem, you can take negativity to heart and get angry or upset when those around you say mean things. If you take care of yourself and respect your own personality, you become a stronger person and will be able to take criticism on the chin.
5. You cope better with loss
Whether you’re going through a breakup with your boyfriend, a fall out with a friend or the loss of a relative, it’s only natural to experience a period of grief after such a huge life change.
Grieving is healthy and a necessary journey on our road to recovery, but if you identify as your own best friend, you may emerge from the healing process faster than if you lack self-esteem.
As your own best friend, deep down you know that you’ll emerge from a sad or traumatic experience stronger than ever before and ready to tackle anything life throws at you. You’ll also be kinder and more considerate to yourself during difficult times.
You certainly don’t need to deal with grief alone, however. Don’t be afraid to reach out to friends and relatives for help and support.
You have it all, and once you understand this and choose to live from a belief of abundance rather than scarcity or inadequacy, you will have the best friend possible by your side: yourself.