I slowly learn that the energy needed to react to all the bad things that happen to you is exhausting you and preventing you from seeing the other good things in life. I’m slowly learning that I will not be for everyone and that I will not be able to treat everyone the way I want, and it does not matter. I’m slowly learning that trying to “win” someone is simply a waste of time and energy, filling you up empty.
I’m slowly learning that not reacting means everything is fine. It just means that I choose to get out of it. I chose to take the lesson she served and learn. I decide for the biggest person. I choose my peace of mind because I really need it. I do not need any more drama. I do not need people who make me feel that I am not good enough. I do not need fights, arguments and bad connections. I slowly learn that sometimes does not say anything.
I slowly learn that reacting to things that bother you gives someone else the power to dominate your feelings. You can not control what others are doing, but you can control how you respond to it, how you treat it, how you perceive it, and how much you want to take it personally. I slowly learn that these situations do not usually say anything about you and a lot about the other person. I slowly learn that all these disappointments can only serve to teach us to love ourselves, because it will be the armor and shield we need against the people who are trying to shoot us down. They will save us if people try to shake our confidence or make us feel that we are worthless.
I slowly learn that even when I react, it does not change that people do not like me and do not respect me suddenly, that they will not change their minds by magic. Sometimes it’s better to let things go, to let people go, not to fight closure, to demand no explanation, not to look for answers and not to wait for people to understand where they come from. I slowly learn that life is better by not focusing on what’s going on around you, but rather on what’s happening inside you. Work on yourself and your inner peace and you will realize that if you do not respond to anything that bothers you, it is not the first ingredient of a happy and healthy life.
See also: Mahatma Gandhi’s 10 Rules for Changing the World
We tend to think that change happens outside of ourselves and that it’s the government’s, our family’s, our community’s fault that our lives are the way They are right now.
The truth is that we have the power inside of us to change our lives, but we must first be willing to see that truth.
Gandhi offers 10 fundamental truths for changing the world, and they all start on the inside of us.
1. Change yourself first.
“You must be the change you want to see in the world.”
The truth is that it is possible to change the world. But to change the world, you must first change. You must change your mentality, your habits and your actions. It is not easy to change oneself, but it is necessary if you want to have a huge impact.
2. You are the driving force in your life
“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”
Most of us go through life with the feeling of not having control.
Our time is filled with things we must do, while our dreams are filled with things we suppose we can not do. Our social and financial obligations determine the essence of our behavior, while the rest of our decisions are limited by fear.
Life becomes a set of things that happen to us.
But that does not have to be so. You can systematically overcome your fears and eliminate the external obstacles that hold you back. You can regain control. Your life can be yours.
“An eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind.”
If someone has hurt you, it is not always easy to let go. But if you stick to the grudge, you will only feel worse – not just emotionally. Resentment can increase your blood pressure and trigger the release of stressful chemicals that can make you physically ill. And the truth is that it is useless anyway. As the saying goes: “Not forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
4. Results require action
“An ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching.”
Without acting, little is done. However, it can be difficult and difficult to act. There can be a lot of inner resistance.
And so, you can resort to preaching, as Gandhi says. Or read and study without end. And the feeling that you advance. But in real life, little or no practical results.
To really get where you want to go and really understand yourself and understand your world, you have to practice. Books can usually only bring knowledge. You must act and translate that knowledge into results and understanding.
Go to the next section to learn more about the best advice for taking the steps I’ve found so far.
5. Pay attention to the here and now
“I do not want to foresee the future. I am concerned with taking care of the present. God has given me no control over the moment following.”
Live the present moment. To be present.
Sounds so easy, right?
Most of our thoughts wander and we plan either the future or the past. In fact, a recent Harvard study found that our thoughts wandered on average 50% of the time.
The benefits of living in the present moment are numerous.
6. We are all human
“It is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.”
Perfection is an ideal that no one can realistically attain. We are all imperfect beings despite our best intentions. It takes a humble spirit to get better and better. To do this, you must admit your mistakes and learn the best possible lessons.
With humility, you can see where you are wrong. You can not be blinded by pride in this regard. It would mean never really evolving. The same mistakes keep coming back in your life because you never really learn your lesson.
7. Keep pushing forward
“First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.”
To be persistent. Over time, the opposition around you will fade and fall. And your inner resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies, which want to hold you back and keep you as you have always been, become weaker.
Find out what you really like to do. Then it will be easier to stay positive and you will find the inner motivation to continue. You can also find many useful tips on how to keep motivation motivated in 27 simple ways.
One of the reasons that Gandhi was so successful with his method of non-violence is that he and his followers were so persistent. They just did not give up.
Success or victory will rarely come as fast as you would have liked. I think one of the reasons people do not understand what they want is because they give up too early. The time they expect to achieve is not the time normally required to achieve this goal.
Part of this false belief comes from the world we live in. A world full of magic pills, where advertising constantly promises to lose a lot of weight or make a lot of money in just 30 days.
Finally, a helpful hint to maintain your perseverance is to hear Gandhi’s third quote in this article and retain a sense of humor. This can alleviate things in the most difficult times.
8. Work to see the good in people
“I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along with people.”
Many interactions today have an exceptional car quality. At work, at home, on the phone, by e-mail: we separate, so to speak, while exchanging information, smiling or frowning. How many times do we really need a few seconds to get an idea of what’s in others – especially regarding their qualities?
Because of the inclination of the brain, what scientists call the “negativity bias” (you’ll know more in my talk on Google), we’ll probably be more likely to perceive the bad qualities of others than the good ones: things that bother us make critical.
Unfortunately, when you feel surrounded by many bad or at best neutral qualities in others, and only with a plethora of good, shy people, you naturally feel less supportive, less secure and inclined to be generous or to you. To pursue dreams. In a circular way, when another person feels that you do not really see what is good in them, they are less likely to take the time to see many things that are good in you.
Seeing the good in others is a simple but effective way to feel happier, more confident, more loving and more productive in the world.
9. Show up as yourself
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
Staying true to yourself is a lifelong practice that requires commitment and reconnection from moment to moment throughout your development. The answer to what is true for you is always at the heart of what you are when you give yourself the time and space to listen.
If you are true to yourself, you are totally honest with how you feel, deeply appreciate and desire. It also means that you communicate your feelings to yourself and others so that your truth may flow through you and around the world.
To fully and authentically express your truth, you must first maintain a deep relationship of trust with yourself. In the end, it starts with the perception of your thoughts and experience of the whole body and the way you interact with the world every day.
10. Be open to growing as a person
“Constant development is the law of life, and a man who always tries to maintain his dogmas in order to appear consistent drives himself into a false position.”
We have the ability to learn, to improve our skills and to understand so many different things. It is important not to stagnate in life, because only if you continue to improve you will be able to follow the changing world.
If you are a man who is not ready to adapt, you will not exist in the world. Certainly, elasticity is an excellent feature. The rigidity of faith and expectations can make a person fatal. Always be ready to learn new things and change accordingly.