I’m too old to worry about who likes me and who dislikes me. I have more important things to do. If you love me, I love you. If you support me, I support you. If you hate me, I don’t care. Life goes on with or without you.
Why The Older You Get The More You Hate Everyone
Now that you have grown up and lived an adult life, you feel you hate more people than you like. Is this something directly related to growing older? I think it is. When I was young, I could easily deal with people. I was in the state of mind to put that extra effort to keep those people in my life.
As I grew older, most people who I considered indispensable to my existence revealed their true colors. They broke my heart, betrayed my trust and did not care to make amends. At first, In the beginning, it really felt bad to lose my so-called ‘close friends’, but with time I realized I was more at ease with the feeling of having no friends at all.
As you get older, the desire to please wrong people vanishes
Why we end up with so many wrong people like our friends (at least we want to think them that way) is our desire to be part of the ‘hot and happening’ lot, our desire to be popular. Most of us do wrong and destructive things to impress people in our bid to be friends with everyone. During the phase, we can not even get the alarming signals that scream we are being used by toxic people.
As we grew older, we become more mature and develop eyes that show us the true image. It does not feel good to please anyone by doing harmful and humiliating things for someone else’s pleasure or fun.
I just have no desire to settle for people who do not want to make our friendship long-lasting. If someone just wants to play foul and derive fun from it, they are most welcome to leave because I will no longer bear with their filthy behavior.
As you get older, you don’t feel the need to add new friends
Making new friends slips off your priority list as you grow up. Having a lot of friends is not at all a great idea for me. I have had the experience, and I am well aware of what it is. This does not mean that I have stopped making contacts or socializing. It just means I don’t let people get access to my private life or trust them with my deepest secrets.
I am at an age when I do not want to make new friends anymore. My family is all I have and though it may sound unfortunate, actually it isn’t. Believe it or not, I feel quite good about it.
As you get older, you learn to respect yourself
The day you start enjoying and taking care of yourself, you stop ruining yourself. Normally, people wake up after living an adult life for some time and learned to look through illusions.
There is an urgent call within your awakened soul to stop doing things that gratify others, and indulge in activities that please you. You will find most friendships evaporating in no time. When you stop allowing people to use you like a doormat, they would abandon you because you are useless to them. There will not be the slightest inclination on your part to do wild things just to be a part of a group or ensure a place on someone’s friend list.
Instead of feeling low, you want to spend time learning and improving yourself. After all, it’s you who will be there for you. Friends will leave you sooner or later.