Toxic people thrive for drama and expect you to be a part of it. But you always have the power to step back and say “no more.”
Toxic people are emotional vampires. Their constant presence negatively impacts the way you think and act. It’s good to be compassionate and generous to people who really need it, however, toxic people will take advantage of this nature and emotionally scar you if you’re not careful.
It’s important to identify these negative individuals and cut them off as soon as possible. Here’s how you know.
1. They Emotionally Exhaust You
Have you ever spent time with a friend or family member and feel exhausted after that? If the answer is yes, then you’ve got a toxic person on hand. Toxic people have an uncanny knack for draining you emotionally. This they do with their woe-is-me stories or through constant backbiting of another person that you don’t really have an issue with. However, they are all about themselves, so don’t expect anything in return. If you know such a person or family member, then it’s time cut ties with them.
2. They Can’t Stand It If You’re Successful
Toxic people thrive when you are miserable. Should they smell a hint of success or anything good in your life, they are quick to point out your mistakes, criticize every move you make, and even publicly pick on your vulnerable side to make you feel inadequate. They do this because they are jealous of you, and want you to look small in front of them. Do you really need this kind of person in your life? You’re better off without them.
3. They emotionally manipulate you
Toxic people are skillful manipulators with an ulterior motive. They have no qualms about using your good nature to get whatever they want. They are masters of half-truths and deception, and not to mention great actors. With them, there is no winning because you will always be the bad guy in their eyes (and others who they spread their stories too) conveniently forgetting the drama that they’ve created but expect you to be responsible for.
4. They guilt-trip you
They love to be the center of attention and create a lot of drama and chaos in their life. And then suck you right into it. Any minor problem is blown out of proportion or they constantly whine about the situation they are currently in. They then expect you to solve the problems for them, and be at their beck and call. Should you not be available to them, they use their favorite tactic: guilt-tripping.
5. They hurting you without remorse
Toxic people are only concerned about themselves and are user-friendly. They have no problems reaching out to you when they need something, and once you’ve given it to them, they disappear; only to later reappear when they need another problem to be solved or need something from you. This will not only hurt you but leave you feeling miserable and used. Reciprocity is an unfamiliar concept to them.
6. Toxic people will try to bring you down when you’re feeling good…
You’ve heard it a million times: Misery loves company. Insecure and unhappy people won’t root for your success. Instead, they’ll respond to your exciting news or positive mindset by pointing out everything that could go wrong. When this happens, keep in mind that their reaction is likely born out of envy and deep dissatisfaction with their own situations.
But just because you empathize with their negativity doesn’t mean you have to deal with it. Next time you have some good news, avoid these downers and don’t let anyone put a damper on your shine.
7. … But won’t ever lift you up when you’re feeling down.
As we’ve previously established, misery loves company. When you find yourself going through a tough time, toxic people will commiserate with you and amplify your despair instead of pointing out the bright side of your situation.
Whether you’re going through a breakup or dealing with a problem at work, you deserve to confide in people whose main priorities are encouraging and uplifting you in the midst of hardship — not reveling in your gloom.