7 Behaviors People Who Were Unloved As Children Display In Their Adult Lives


Early childhood is a period of rapid change in the human brain. The brain builds complex network connections at a very fast rate during early or middle childhood.

A process called myelination, which’s the brain neuron formation, is eighty percent complete by age 4.

The brain plays a role in literally everything we do, think, or say. In case a kid is not properly nurtured, it affects their brain development, preventing their emotional networks from being developed.

The connection between the childhood brain’s personality characteristics and developmental traits is both universal and indisputable.

A psychologist, Peg Streep, discusses the link between adult and early childhood life. Namely, Streep notes that although everybody’s childhood experience is different, there’re reliable and broad statements that may be made about the impact of these experiences. Childhood experiences can shape a person’s behavior and personality.

Here Are the Signs and Behaviors Someone That Was Neglected and Unloved During Childhood Displays:

1. Oversensitivity

Everyone has probably heard the phrase “Do not take this personally.” In fact, it’s solid advice. Those who deal with their own problems usually project them onto other people.

But, for somebody who had the misfortune of growing up in an unloving environment, to not take things personally does go against the grain of their psyche.

2. Insecurity

If the child is misfortunate enough to grow up in a loving home, it’s pretty natural to take things personally later in life. People who deal with problems and issues with themselves often project their issues onto others and can’t understand that people are sharing their opinions and thoughts about a certain thing and it doesn’t mean that they want to hurt them. The person also fears of rejection because as a child, the child felt unloved and insignificant in their parent’s lives and in the family.

3. Fear of Failure

Unfortunately, kids that grow up in a neglectful environment may not develop a sense of self-worth. However, a loving and stimulating environment can instill fortitude and confidence.

A kid that’s unloved may feel an absence of self-esteem that usually manifests as an unjustifiable sense of failure.

4. Poor Emotional Intelligence

A child learns what she’s feeling through dyadic interaction; a mother’s gestures and words teach the baby to self-soothe when she’s stressed or uncomfortable. Later, the mother will play a key role in helping her daughter articulate her feelings, name them, and learn to manage her fears and negative emotions.

The insecurely attached daughter doesn’t learn to regulate her emotions; she’s either engulfed by them or walled off from them. Both insecure styles of attachments get in the way of naming emotions and using them to inform thought—key aspects of emotional intelligence.

5. Trust Issues

It’s essential that the people that are surrounding the child are stable and show and live loyalty and trust. In the mind of the baby, everything programs itself what it sees and feels, the mind remembers through pictures and symbols. Without a stabilized surrounding, the child will have difficulties with trusting other, and more importantly, trusting itself.

6. Anxiety and Depression

Unloved kids usually develop mental health problems.

Anxiety and depression that stem from having experienced neglect or the inevitable complications that surface when the kid ages are common mental health problems.

7. Toxic Relationships

We all seek out the familiar (see the shared root with the word family?) which is just dandy if you have a secure base, and definitely less than optimal if you’re an unloved daughter. The chances are good that, initially at least, you’ll be attracted to those who treat you as your mother did—a familiar comfort zone that offers no comfort. Until you begin to recognize the ways in which you were wounded in childhood, the chances are good that you’ll continue to recreate the emotional atmosphere you grew up with in your adult relationships.

Source: consciousreminder.com, mindwaft.com


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