“Whatever you do, good or bad, people will always have something negative to say!”
..so do what you were going to do anyway!
People always think that they are better than the others and they love to criticize. Oh, how they love to do so! But what people fail to understand is that everyone has different perspectives and way of doing things, and that is okay. There is more than one right way to do things.
Also, there is constructive criticism, when it is said the right way with all the good intentions. But you will know it when it happens.
In this article we will focus on the other type of criticism, the one that is supposed to destroy you and that is not meant in a good way. Remember to never take their criticism personal and to not let it get to you.
Here are the 5 ways to effectively deal with criticism:
1. Do Not Take It Personal
Like I mentioned before, I will repeat it. And this time, I’ll go a little bit. This is often the main problem of critics. When I criticize my mother’s cooking, she feels personally offended. However, it is a mistake to identify ourselves with an apple pie. Someone can find good reasons why our cooking is bad.
However, this does not mean they are criticizing ourselves. When people criticize us directly, we should feel that they do not criticize our real self; but, just an unillumined aspect of ourselves. When we criticize others, we are perhaps criticizing their pride or jealousy; but, the jealousy is a mere passing emotion, it is not the real person.
2. Take A Few Deep Breaths
Taking a few deep breaths can help in different ways. It gives you time to process what you have just been told. It also helps lower your heart rate so you won’t react as harshly as you normally would have. This will help you decide what to do next with a clearer mind. You may come up with a calm and valid response. You may also decide you need to just walk away from the conversation.
3. Try To See If There Is Some Truth In It
Not everything they said might be true. But it could come from a reasonable place. Maybe their comment is partially true. Keep an open mind and think for a second. Let’s say it’s your boss, even though he tells you to do a good job every day. Retrospect for a bit and see if they might be right with their comment. Sometimes other people can see the situation better than us, and then help us see the one thing we are missing. It may be a constructive criticism that we did not notice at first.
4. If It Gets Rough, Remember You Are Tough!
Judgment and criticism follow you throughout your life. It is just how it is. So, make sure that you are stronger in such a situation and tough enough to handle it and get through it. The key here is to trust in yourself and don’t give your attention to it. That way, it’ll pass soon and it won’t get to you.
5. Always Be True To Yourself And Be Real
Be honest with yourself, stay faithful and be true to yourself! If you practice that, life will give you so much in return! Not everyone has to agree with you and be happy with your ways, but it is you that walks your own path. So whatever everyone else has to say, let them. Now you know how to deal with that.