Out of the blue, you have the strong urge to pop off and rant about how horrible of supervisor he or she is. Negativity creates its own life in our head, and we may feel helpless to counteract these mental movements.
What needs clearing up are the things you can do differently to manage the negative aspects. Here are some ways to handle disturbingly negative thoughts:
1. Thoughts Will Only Ever Be Just That – Thoughts
A thought, at its most fundamental level, is a tiny neurotransmitter secretion. They occur at a rate of a thousand each hour according to certain evaluations (but they can’t truly be measured as the brain doesn’t rest). It is interesting to see how we generally put more weight on negative situations and neglect the positive.
This is your negative psychological attachments that come into play. The negative attachment keeps us in touch with our inner fear. They are extremely powerful. There are entire books dedicated to this idea of inner negativity attachment. Everyone should realize how real and difficult it is to admit. Thoughts are neither good nor bad.
They just have as much importance as you let them have. Is it possible for you to stop taking them as serious as you have? You are on the right track if you can because you’ll have more choice as soon as you do.
2. Recognize That Critical Thoughts are Completely Normal
These kinds of thoughts aren’t “socially acceptable”, so few will ever admit that something is up in their head. Still, your ordinary person’s mind has the capacity to be a heaping pile of trouble. I understand this from my background in coaching and counseling very typical people ― just like me.
The people I work with have always been successful and well-adjusted people with jobs, families, businesses ventures and adult responsibilities.
When we go digging around just a bit, even the most reserved and nice people uncover a completely contrasting and much darker side of themselves. This is totally normal. I have never met anybody, from the ordinary marijuana-smoking teen to the most sophisticated professional, who was not having difficulties on a deeper level with stuff like this.
3. The Solution
There’s nothing magical about the solution. Nobody can purify your mind immediately and turn you into a pure ball of joy. As a person, you are still vulnerable and imperfect.
All you have to do is deal with your deeper problems that support the negative thinking loop.
How do you handle negative thoughts? Can you just let them pass? Are there any actions you would like to take? Let us know and if this helped you, send it over to someone you think is dealing with the same issues!