10 Things About You That Will Change When You Lose Your Parents


We never realize that our parents are human until it’s too late. We grow up and think of them as invincible. But then we grow up and forget that they are getting older too.

Before we know it, we’re watching our superheroes turn into old people we don’t even recognize. We are too afraid to say anything but we know that one day, they won’t be here anymore.

There are many things you will wish you would have said when your parents were still around to hear them. Here are 10 things you’ll face after your parents are gone. Learn from these lessons and change your life now. You do not have to wait until your parents are gone to appreciate them.

How Losing a Parent Changes You

1. You Become More Anxious

It becomes more difficult to manage stress and you feel overwhelmed even by ordinary responsibilities. You realize that you’re worrying more, especially about your health and that of your family.

Studies even show that people experiencing grief from the loss of a parent are more likely to have a higher risk of anxiety and depression.

2. You Can’t Deal With People Complaining About Their Parents

You used to let other people’s negative remarks about their parents go unnoticed, but now it irks you that anyone would complain about their parents’ quirks. You would give anything to get those long voicemails, infamous soup recipes, and embarrassing nicknames back again.

3. You Can Feel Grief in Your Body

As if every cell in your body remembers the warm hug of your parent, your body can become physically sick with grief. Men are particularly likely to experience dips in their health and wellbeing when they lose a parent.

Remember to care for your own wellness as you grieve, your healing process is emotional, spiritual, and physical.

4. You Learn to Live with Sadness

We’ve shared before why grief is not something to “get over”, but has many different stages and facets. You realize that you will never stop missing your parent and their absence will be more obvious some days than others. But you eventually learn to cope with your loss and keep moving forward.

If you or someone you love is experiencing a severe grief that doesn’t seem to fluctuate or ebb over a period of months or years, you should contact a health a medical care provider about persistent complex bereavement disorder, a mental health condition in which grief interrupts your ability to function for a long period of time.

5. Holidays Have Changed

Most of us inherit the importance of special days from our parents. They were the first people in our lives to teach us how to celebrate the milestones of life.

Without them, holidays and special occasions over the years can make you feel lonely, melancholy and hollow. But over time you will learn to create a new meaning for those special days.

6. You Learn to Accept Their Flaws

When you were young, you looked at your parents and trusted them completely. But with maturity came the realization that they were people, just like you, and they were trying their best to care for you in a complicated world.

No matter what your relationship with your parent was like, once they’re gone, you find yourself coming to terms with their flaws and mistakes. You see them in a new light and you learn to forgive the times they fell short.

7. Your Emotions Become More Complicated

Grief is an experience, not a feeling, and it is made up of many complicated and often conflicting emotions. You can feel sadness, guilt, anger, fear, relief, and numbness all within the space of a few minutes.

Don’t shy away from your negative emotions. They are all a part of healing in a healthy way.

8. Your Relationship with Your Siblings Changes

Every family unit has a unique dynamic, held in place by each member. Whether you have a blended family, separated family, or anything else, you will find that the loss of a parent can be a catalyst for change between you and your siblings.

In some families, the shock of grief can cause friction and conflict between brothers and sisters. For others, a loss in the family can actually lead to the healing of broken relationships. Do not underestimate the bonds you have with your remaining loved ones. If you can, commit to checking in on one another.

9. You Catch Yourself Trying to Call Them

One of the most heartbreaking feelings, as you grieve, is picking up a phone to share some news with a parent and then realizing that they won’t be on the other end of the line to listen. You can’t help but grieve all of the moments you won’t be able to share with them.

10. You Learn How Strong Love Actually Is

The beautiful thing about sadness is that it reminds you of how deep your love for your parent actually goes. It’s no real consolation, but as you reflect on the time you did have with your mother or father, you will appreciate all the new perspectives of love that start to surface.

Source: theheartysoul.com


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