When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
It is very important to try and honor at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.
3. I would like to have the courage to express my feelings.
Many people have repressed their feelings for keeping peace with others. As a result, they opted for a mediocre existence and never became what they were really capable of. Many suffered from illnesses related to the bitterness and resentment that resulted.
We can not control the reactions of others. Although people react honestly in their own way, this can lead to a new, healthier relationship. Either that or that solves the unhealthy relationship of your life. Either way, you win.
4. I would have liked to keep in touch with my friends.
“Often, they have recognized the benefits of old friends only in recent weeks, and it has not always been possible to find them.Many were so caught up in their own lives that they had made friendships in gold at Over the years, there was a lot of deep regret for not giving his friends the time and effort they deserved – everyone misses their friends when they die. ”
5. I would have liked to make myself happier.
“It’s a surprising amount, many have finally realized that happiness is a choice.” They had stayed in old patterns and habits.The so-called “consolation” of familiarity flooded his feelings and his physical life. For fear of change, they had done it for others, but for themselves, they were satisfied when they longed to laugh and become stupid again.